How to Avoid Stress II
Ask yourself the following questions
Locate the one you thought is stressing right now and answer these questions as if it were a meditation, take your time, let the responses arising from the heart.
As an example we will use the thought “He pays me no attention.”
1. Is that true?
Is it true that “he do not pay attention? The answer must be a simple yes or no. If the answer is no, go to question 3 directly.
2. Can you know that is true with absolute certainty?
Can you know that is true with absolute certainty that you do not pay attention? What if you do not look do not you listening? What do not pay attention because it demonstrated?. Again the answer to be simply yes or no.
3. How do you react, what happens when you believe that thought?
What makes you think he do not pay attention? How do you treat him when you think you do not pay attention? How this thought makes you feel physically and emotionally?
4. Who would you be without the thought? You do not have to struggle with the thought simply perceived as would live your life if you did not believe that thought. How you would treat him if you had this thought.
The next part of the process is investing’s thoughts as follows:
* Spend it to the opposite (180 ° inversion): “He does pay attention to me.” Stand still and notice all the feelings that appear in this regard. The thought of this and look directly confront often requires courage, but the results are worth it. When the mind is open, you begin to find other examples where you pay attention, you can see others with new eyes, to recognize things that sometimes do not see. It is open to the possibility that things are not like we were thinking.
* Spend it to the other: “I do not pay attention to him.” Find examples where you do not pay attention to it. Notice how sometimes that we want others to do, we are not easy to do to us.
* Spend it to yourself: “I do not pay attention.” And this is perhaps the most profound of all investment, which will help you see how you have not been paying attention to yourself in many aspects of your life. And when you see this, you will see how you expect him to pay attention, if you yourself do not you? And thanks to this you can start making the necessary amendments you.
Finally something that bothered you in the other person leads you to discover things about yourself that might not otherwise have seen. The other person becomes your mirror and a great gift.
Credit to: Sandra Iozzelli